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Attachment Style Quiz

Attachment theory describes the patterns we develop early in life for relating to others, patterns that shape our adult relationships in profound and often invisible ways. This 8-question quiz helps you identify your predominant attachment style.

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Rate how much each statement describes you in close relationships.
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I find it relatively easy to get emotionally close to others and feel comfortable depending on them

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2

I often worry about whether the people I care about truly value me

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3

I prefer to handle difficult emotions on my own rather than leaning on others

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4

I feel comfortable with the amount of closeness I have in my relationships

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5

When I’m upset, I tend to seek reassurance repeatedly, even after my partner has already tried to help

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6

It feels easier to keep my feelings to myself than to share them with someone close to me

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7

I fear that if people really knew me, they would pull away

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8

I value my independence to the point where deep emotional intimacy can feel uncomfortable

Secure

Your results

Your subscale scores

Secure
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Anxious
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Avoidant
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Attachment styles exist on a spectrum and most people show some traits from multiple styles. This quiz identifies your predominant pattern, it does not put you in a rigid category. Attachment styles also change over time, especially with therapy.
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Understanding attachment

What the three styles actually feel like

Secure

You are generally comfortable with closeness and can both depend on others and be depended upon. You tend to trust your relationships and can express your needs without excessive fear of abandonment or rejection.

Secure attachment is associated with relationship satisfaction, emotional resilience, and the ability to tolerate conflict without it feeling catastrophic.

Anxious

Also called preoccupied, anxious attachment is marked by a deep longing for closeness alongside worry that it won’t last. You may be attuned to subtle shifts in your relationships and seek reassurance to manage uncertainty.

This style often develops when early caregiving was inconsistent, present enough to create attachment, but unpredictable enough to create anxiety.

Avoidant

Also called dismissive, avoidant attachment involves a strong pull toward independence and self-sufficiency. Emotional intimacy can feel threatening or uncomfortable, and sharing vulnerabilities may not come naturally.

This style often emerges when early emotional needs were consistently minimized, teaching the nervous system that connection comes with the cost of self.

Take the next step

Understanding your attachment style is the beginning of changing it.

Relational and psychodynamic therapy offers something uniquely suited to attachment work: a real, ongoing relationship in which to notice and shift these patterns as they actually arise. Schedule a free consultation to discuss what this could look like for you.

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